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Are there negative effects of masturbation or is it really a healthy and harmless way to release sexual tension as many believe? Is this really a safe practice for adolescents before marriage, or during a courtship to maintain “purity”?
The truth is masturbation will kill you – physically, mentally and spiritually. Let’s first look at how it ruins your body.
Masturbation and Stress
– why masturbation makes you feel better
When you masturbate, your brain releases dopamine and endorphins.
“Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that enables you to feel pleasurable emotions, and

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Red flags can come at any time in a relationship. Sometimes they come within the first week of dating, while others don’t show their face until 6 months in. Not every red flag is as visible as physical abuse either. Here are 50 red flags you should watch for in your relationships.
1. They never apologize for bad behavior.
If they do something wrong or something to hurt you, but never accept responsibility for the issue and rather just throw up excuses to why that behavior is okay or how it’s different in this case, that’s a major red flag. When’s the last time they apologized for their behaviour?
2. They think all their exes are crazy and don’t see the common denominator.
If your partner thinks all their exes are psycho and need a therapist, they probably don’t see the common denominator is themselves.
3. They use ultimatums to get their way.
If they are stubborn and threaten to end your relationship, instead of coming to a compromise, it will get tiring. The same old “maybe I will find someone who will do that instead” or “I will find someone better” story puts nothing but stress on your relationship to the point where you really are unsure of the health or condition of your relationship.
4. When they don’t text you back quick, but are always on their phone.
If you text your partner and it takes them ages to respond, yet when they are with you, they are never off their phone, that may be something to think about. Taking a long time to respond isn’t a big deal, but lying about why you weren’t responding is.
5. You don’t like their friends.
If the people they hang out with are not nice people, you should probably reevaluate

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We all have been faced with issues that has left a scar, a big hole in our heart that cut so deep. Unless the past is dealt with, one is not prepared to live in the present nor to go on into the future. Unless the past is dealt with, it becomes a haunting memory that saps the strength of the believer so he is unable to honor Christ in his daily life.

Someone has said, “The present must forget the past by correction, or else the past will become a moral and spiritual liability for the future.”

Consider some items that need to be forgotten: failures–they keep our faith from advancing; successes–they create pride (see Prov. 16:18); losses–they drag us down so we cannot serve the Lord the way we should; grievances–they produce false attitudes (see 1 Cor. 13:6); sorrows–God can heal all heartaches; discouragements–we need to remember Christ, not disappointments, thwarted hopes and plans.

Joseph, son of Jacob, overcame a painful past. He was raised in what we would call a “dysfunctional family.” Sibling rivalry filled Jacob’s household. Favoritism abounded. Hatred was a regular dish served on the family menu. One day, Joseph’s brothers caught him, threw him into a pit, and discussed killing him. One brother intervened and convinced the rest instead to sell Joseph as a slave to traders headed toward Egypt.
In Egypt, Joseph became the property of a man named Potiphar. Potiphar’s wife had eyes for Joseph, though, and made continual sexual advances toward him. Frustrated by Joseph’s refusal, she falsely charged him with attempted rape and he was imprisoned.
While imprisoned, Joseph made friends with a baker and a cupbearer. Each promised to pull their political strings and secure Joseph’s release, if and when they were freed. In time, the baker was hanged. The cupbearer was freed, but suffered a case of amnesia when it came to

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If you don’t want to grow white hairs before you get married, here are the things you need to do to attract your man and get married on time:
1. SMILE: Men love smiling women. No, not the one that begins and ends with the mouth, the one that starts from the eyes. Genuine, loving smile attracts people, creates friendship and unlock doors! Learn to smile at people baby, women who lack men’s attention rarely smile. They are always cold and look as if they are carrying the problem of the whole world on their head! Some of these ladies even frown a lot! Look, everybody has a problem, no man wants to add another person’s problem to his own. Be a genuinely happy person and show it by smiling at people. Men will find you irresistible and seek to know you more.
2. BE HUMBLE: Humble women don’t lack suitors! One way to stay single for a long time is to be proud and cocky! Proud women are a big turn off! If you always roll your eyes at people, segregate yourself from the company of common people, talk down on anybody and you are practically rude because of your class, money, car, social status, job, etc, you will stay single forever! Be humble! Learn to accommodate all class for people. Learn to serve others. Learn to use “sir” when talking to men. Some men may tell you it doesn’t matter but secretly, they love it. Men love it when women address them with respect. Learn to be respectful and submissive to authorities.
3. BE CONFIDENT: Confident women are attractive any day any time. Knowing who you are, pursuing your dreams, vision, passion and goals makes you a confident person worth investing in. When you know your reason for being here on earth is far more than getting married, punch out few kids and stay locked in the kitchen forever, you approach life with a positive mind set, you are energetic and confident in who you are, you have a good, sound self-esteem and men are irresistibly drawn to you.
4. BE FRIENDLY: Ladies who keep to themselves hoping some Prince Charming will find

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