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The Mystery Behind Wet Dreams

The Mystery Behind Wet Dreams

There’s a mystery behind wet dream, it is simple, but sometimes complicated. It’s simple in the sense that a sexually inactive mature man may sometimes experience wet dreams which is biologically called nocturnal emission – a process whereby men experience an ejaculation of semen during the night.
Sperms has limited days in which they can last in the human body and new ones needs to be produced. Unused sperms within 21 days are reabsorbed in the body.
It is possible for females too to experience nocturnal orgasm or wet dreams – a sexual arousal during sleep that awakens them to perceive the experience of an orgasm. All of these, both male and female experiences of wet dreams are sometimes related to having sex in the dream.
So, if you haven’t had sex for years, it’s likely that you might have wet dreams. Don’t be scared, it’s a normal development that occurs in your body. But when it happens within days and weeks repeatedly, two things are involved.
First, it’s either you’re feeding your mind with lustful thoughts or pornographic materials. You’ll definitely dream of having sex at night with known or unknown persons.
People in the western world believed that having sex in the dream is only psychological in nature. While making a research on this topic, some people interpreted having sex in the dream with your girlfriend, female boss or best friend as nothing of much significance.
But to us here in Africa, we have a foundation that’s idolatrous in nature and we compete more with wicked forces than the people in the western world.
Dreams sometimes comes from God, the devil or from a man. Having sex in the dream is not from God but the devil or your handiwork. The activities of the day is sometimes replayed in the subconscious image of your mind at night through dreams. If you garbage in sexually explicit materials, expect dreams of sex or sexual immoralities at night.
Secondly, if you’re not exposed to the aforementioned, then wet dream is not just biological but spiritual and evil. The devil cages the life of men and women by allowing them to have recurrent wet dreams so that they will be dispossessed of their virtues or when something good is coming their way, it’ll be destroyed in the dream world (spiritual) before it’s manifestation in the physical.
Demonic wet dreams is aimed at oppressing it’s victim, perverting their minds and introducing failure into their lives. The devil and his fallen angels are the brain behind this dreams. Remember, he doesn’t create anything but perverts what God has created.
This issue of demonic wet dream is caused by these demons: Incubus – an evil spirit that lies on a person in their sleep; it has sexual intercourse with women while they’re sleeping and Succubus – a demon assuming a female form to have sexual intercourse with men in their sleep. They are commonly known as spirit husband or wife and they both afflict singles and married people.
These demons are also in charge of lust and every form of sexual perversion. Exposing yourself to masturbation, pornography, sexual immoralities (fornication, adultery, incest, homosexuality etc), oral and anal sex is an invitation of these spirits into your life.
This issue of the negative implication of wet dreams may not be preached in most churches because some believe it’s not real but your unbelief doesn’t negate their existence.
What should I do if I’m having repeated sex in the dream? Or you have had one lately? No fears or worries! Immediately you wake from sleep, do the following:
1. Pray violently against such dream.
2. Cancel its effect in your life by the blood of Jesus.
3. Pray against powers sponsoring such dreams in your life and ensure that your spirit man is protected by the power in the Holy Ghost.
In addition,
1. Feed your mind daily with God’s word.
2. When feelings of lust comes during the day, verbally renounce them by confessing the word of God – 2 Corinthians 10:5
3. Guard your heart with all diligence against entrance of pornographic materials, lustful thoughts and carnal activities.
4. Pray always so that you don’t fall into temptation. Prayer keeps the soul strong and resistant to evil influences.
5. Prayerfully destroy every stronghold of lust in your life.


TEXT: Gen. 12:1-9ff Heb. 11:8-19
INTRO: What have you set your heart and sights on for your life? The direction you are looking in is where you are heading; and wherever your heart is set there you will find your commitments of time and resources.

While God’s call is different for each one of us, the courage to obey is equally important to us all! God calls everyone of us to do something for His kingdom’s sake, what we need is the courage to obey that call no matter what it is, no matter where it takes us, no matter what demand it makes on our life!

PROP. SENT: The Bible teaches that everyone has a call of God on their life and that each needs to courageously follow that call whether it is a call to be a godly parent or a call to be a world-wide evangelist like Billy Graham … or anything in between! It takes great courage to obey God’s call no matter what it is!

I. FORMATION STAGE Gen. 12:1-3; Heb. 11:8

A. Plans Gen. 12:1; Heb. 11:8
1. Abraham was very comfortable in UR of the Chaldeans, this was a huge city in northern Mesopotamia in the area today known as southern Iraq near the Euphrates River.
a. It was a very large city even by today’s standards, about 500,000 people!
b. It had a very sophisticated culture, i.e. extensive library, postal system, large factories, public school system, 2 story homes, well developed art, mathematics, and sciences, and one of the highest cultures of ancient times!
c. All the comforts and opportunities for wealth and happiness were to be found here. Here a man and his family could have everything they wanted or needed to be comfortable and happy for an entire lifetime.
2. BUT, God had other plans for a man named ABRAM and his wife SARAI.
3. God’s plan for Abraham’s life included a far different road than the one the world offered, and it would take him out of his comfortable surroundings to encounter a strange new land filled with many challenges!
a. God sometimes asks us to do things that we are not comfortable with or familiar with.
b. God’s plans don’t always follow what we anticipate.
4. God asks Abram to leave 3 things behind and blindly follow His plan for his life:
a. “Leave your own country.”
b. “Leave your people.”
c. “Leave your father’s house.”
d. “And go to a land I will show you!” 12:1

B. Promises Gen. 12:2-3
1. God’s plans are never without God’s promises — this is what gives us the courage to act on His will for our lives.
a. God never calls us to do something without promising to help us do what He calls us to do!
b. Sometimes those promises are the only things we have to stand on when things don’t go as we hoped or planned!
c. It is many times the promises of God that keep us going in the face of loss and confusion.
2. Sometimes God’s promises are personal, even when THINGS don’t go as we thought God had planned God could very well be using the circumstances to build our character, something that God is far more interested in than just what we DO for HIM!
a. God makes 7 wonderful promises to Abraham, promises that are inspiring and wonderful — and promises that Abraham saw little to no fulfillment of in his lifetime!
b. Yet, Abraham held to those promises like they were his bread and water, even though he saw little of them fulfilled in his own lifetime, it was these 7 promises that kept him going when opposition and trouble came. It was these 7 promises that continued to give him courage to obey!
c. Obedience however was still a choice at every junction in his life, something that had to be made over and over again!

3. It is important to know God’s promises in His Word, sometimes they are the only things that can give you courage to obey and keep going!
a. There were times when all Abraham had were God’s promises to fall back on.
b. But this was always enough for him, and it will be for us also.

II. FAULTS AND FAITH STAGE! Gen. 12:4-9ff. Heb. 11:17-19

A. Problems Gen. 12:4-9ff
1. What was life like for Abraham when he chose to have the courage to obey?
a. Well, he got bogged down for a while in Haran, he didn’t leave here until his father Terah passed away, he was delayed for a while (interestingly enough his father’s name “Terah” in Hebrew means, “DELAY”), and this happens sometimes in our life!
b. Though he was told to leave his family he finds himself stuck with Lot until things separated them later, Lot going along wasn’t in the original plan!
c. Things were not easy in the desert areas with all his flocks and servants.
d. Not long into the journey a horrible famine hit, so bad that it forced Abraham and Sarah to travel to Egypt where he nearly got himself killed because he told a half lie about his wife and his relationship to her!
e. He found himself having to go to war over freeing his nephew Lot, not something that fit into those promises too well!
f. He never did have deed to the property God told him would be his and his descendants, the most he actually owned in his lifetime was a burial plot near the Hittites, a cave called Machpelah.
g. A second time Abraham lies about his wife and almost messes up God’s plan for his life, he makes this same mistake twice! Fortunately God warned king Abimelech before any damage was done! (Gen. 20)
h. Also, we know that Abraham and Sarah both attempted to help God with one of His promises … that of a son, they tried to adopt Eliezer of Damascus — but God said that wasn’t the answer so then they used Hagar to give birth to Ishmael, but that wasn’t the answer either — not until Isaac was born when Abraham was 100 and Sarah was 90 did they find God’s promise coming true!
i. They made numerous mistakes and faltered several times but they kept coming back to God’s promises and found faith again to keep the courage to obey!
2. You can’t just sit still and hope for God to give you courage, you have to act to experience it!

3. Abraham’s life journey was full of setbacks and faults, but he didn’t just sit there … he kept going with the courage to obey.

B. Perseverance Heb. 11:17-19
1. There were also times of victory and great courage as he clung to those promises of God.
a. When God asked Abraham to offer up his only son Isaac he took great courage and obeyed even though it made little sense, Abraham considered God capable of raising him from the dead if necessary, he knew God’s promise on this issue and he stood upon it unwaveringly!
b. He considered God as good as His Word!
2. These times of courage to obey is what set Abraham apart from others of his day and of our day as well!
3. Abraham’s life was one of perseverance, of trusting God to keep His promises if he simply obeyed, even when he didn’t understand!
4. Sometimes it is hard to obey God’s Word and His principles, especially when they make our life harder at times. Like tithing … it doesn’t make sense but it either works or it doesn’t — and if they are God’s plans and promises they always work!
a. We simply must learn to trust and obey!
b. Obedience to God driven by faith was what made Abraham a righteous man in God’s eyes; it was his faith that moved him to obedience that God counted as righteousness!
5. This is why we remember Abraham so well, he was not a quitter and his name still stands today as a testimony for all those who have the courage to obey!

III. FRUITFUL STAGE Heb. 11:11-13, 16

A. Partial Heb. 11:11-13
1. Abraham’s life wasn’t completely absent of the fulfillment of God’s promises … though he never saw most of God’s promises come to reality in his life he did see some fulfillment.
a. At 100 he finally got the promised son, hardly the descendants like the sand of the seashore, but one was a good start anyway!
b. He only had one son his entire lifetime, he never really saw God’s promise of a great nation, of descendants by the millions; he saw only a small start toward it!
c. Even partial fruit was enough for him however to continue the courage to obey!
2. While he didn’t get everything he wanted in his life he got enough of what God would do to keep him faithful in following Him!
3. Too many Christians do nothing if they don’t see all their big dreams come true, they are unwilling to accept less than grandiose things and thus they often miss out on great adventures for God!


When a society abandons God’s word as its standard of morality, then it will reap the terrible consequences. The greatest threat to the family in our society is its dissolution through separation. Our separation rate is high because so many husbands and wives are following their own will instead of God’s design for marriage and the family. This leads directly to family strife, divorce and family dissolution. Separation has a high cost financially, personally and for society since it erodes the foundation of a healthy society.
The past few decades have witnessed dramatic changes in family life in all industrial countries. The increase in the divorce rate in the second half of the 20th century was striking; in fact, the divorce rate more than doubled in most Westernized countries from 1960 to 1980. The increase in separation has been particularly consequential for children, as millions of them have experienced parental divorce. Moreover, recent increases in non-marital births, driven largely by rising rates of childbearing among cohabiting couples, have also resulted in a greater number of children experiencing the separation of their never-married parents. Because cohabiting relationships are less stable than marriages, many children who are born into these unions also will experience the dissolution of their parents’ union when the cohabiting relationships end.
Should I separate or save family? How to overcome separation?
Marriage separation and divorce are even a more difficult experience than breaking up of a romantic relationship. Divorce and separation ruin life plans and trust to the person who used to be the closest. In addition, the family separation and related processes just do their part with the stress. Because of the effects of divorce, it is one of the most severe tests for your self-assertion and moral strength. Also, you might have to assess pros and cons about children and divorce, thinking how to make the least damage and bring them up as well-balanced people. Lots of difficult questions arise in a family break-up situation. Should I divorce or go for divorce busting to save my family? And how would I settle down in new conditions of single life? How to get the divorce recovery and how to mature to new exciting relationships?

If divorce represents the “death” of a marriage, separation is a temporary “bedrest.” As with an illness, it’s often unclear what direction things are headed in during a separation. But a separation doesn’t have to signify a terminal condition. Below I look at how to assess the health of your relationship during a separation … and pump life back into your marriage.
Look Before You Leap (or Speak)
Before you ask for a separation, think long and hard about all potential consequences of this request. While you may perceive separation simply as a time to figure things out, your partner may perceive it as rejection … and a sign that divorce is inevitable. This may prompt him or her to “check out” from the relationship. Separation also creates confusion (e.g., when/if will we get back together, to what extent are we still married, etc.).
Why Prolong the Inevitable?
If a separation is so complicated, why even bother? Why not just fast-track it to divorce? For couples in troubled marriages, divorce may seem unavoidable. But that is not always the case.
Benefits of Separation
A separation can provide a crucial “cooling off period,” allowing you to more objectively assess the strengths and weakness of a relationship. The time apart may help you remember your spouse’s better qualities, the qualities that made you fall in love. The separation can also give you a clearer perspective on any unhealthy aspects of the relationship—manipulation, co-dependency, etc. Meeting with a marriage counselor can help clarify if and how the marriage can be rebuilt on healthier terms. Individual therapy or marriage and relationship education (MRE) workshops may also be useful.
Logistical Challenges
Separation doesn’t have the same clearly-defined parameters as either marriage or divorce. Accordingly, you and your spouse will have to determine how your separation will be structured and what it means to you. Some issues to discuss…
Dating Other People
Is seeing other people part of the separation? If so, think through how this might impact the possibility of a reunion with your spouse. Should you reconcile, will there be lingering jealousies? If you hope to salvage your marriage, casual dating may not be worth it. One alternative is to date each other—albeit in a limited way. Living apart doesn’t mean you have to cut all ties with each other. Going on dates once a week can inject romance back into your relationship, while allowing sufficient time and space to process through problems.

If you pursue this course, decide in advance what dating your spouse will look like. It may be beneficial to focus on rebuilding emotional intimacy, rather than physical intimacy, during this time. Sex can have an anesthetizing effect—dulling the pain in the relationship while doing nothing to actually address the root issues. As the emotional aspects of your relationship progress, so too can the physical aspect.
Legal Matters
Some couples pursue a legal separation; others simply move out. Legal separation provides a formal process for outlining financial and living arrangements, as well as child support. The costs and processes involved in a legal separation are similar to those of divorce.
Good Co-Parenting
If you have children, be mindful of how the separation may affect them. A separation can disrupt a child’s basic sense of security and stability. Learning to co-parent effectively and communicate respectfully with your estranged spouse can help reduce the emotional strain on your children.
Resolving Issues
How will you and your spouse work on the problems in your relationship during this time? Jointly identify the specific issues that are causing conflict. Regardless of what happens with the marriage, these issues will need to be addressed. Merely finding a different partner will not erase old heartache or radically alter how you relate to a significant other.
If an affair triggered the separation, trust will need to be rebuilt. This process will require both time and effort. Take advantage of the many affair-recovery resources available—counseling, support groups, etc. If finances are creating problems in your marriage, set a strict budget and consult with a reputable credit counselor. Inability to communicate, lack of emotional connection and addiction are other common (but resolvable) struggles.
Ending the Separation
Some couples remain separated indefinitely, often due to religious or moral objections to divorce. Unless these are your convictions, a prolonged separation is probably not ideal. Set a timeline that is realistic for the severity of your relationship issues (3 months, 6 months, etc.). Schedule a date in advance to sit down together and discuss the future of the relationship. If progress has been made, you may want to consider moving back in together. Ongoing professional care is beneficial, perhaps even necessary, in the recuperation of your marriage.
A separation can be a time for healing in your relationship. Couples can—and often do—emerge from this period with stronger marriages. Those couples who actively work to restore healthy relationship patterns are likely to see the greatest progress in reviving their marriage.
Parental separation/divorce is associated with increased risk for numerous psychological, academic and social problems throughout the life-course. Experiencing parental separation is associated with roughly a two-fold increase on average, but an overwhelming majority of children and adolescents do not exhibit impairing problems after parental separations. In other words, recent research highlights an increased risk for negative outcomes but parental divorce separation does not necessarily doom a child to have major, impairing problems. Children and adolescents who experience parental divorce, however, frequently experience great emotional distress during the separation and afterward. Recent research that uses numerous designs to test the underlying causal mechanisms suggests that the increased risk for impairing problems is not due solely to selection factors (risks that increase both parental separation and problems in the offspring). Rather, ongoing conflicts between the co-parents after the separation, problems with poor parenting, financial difficulties resulting from the separation, and loss of contact with the non-residential parent help explain the association between parental divorce and offspring functioning.